stress..

i'm kind of stress during parenting. coz of tired, less hour of sleep, lack of support from family, far away from hubby, my c-sec condition. everything la.. worried 2 if i'm capable or not 4 being a good mother 2 my child.. can i do dis? always asking myself..

hopefully nadira wil b a gud child so dat i'm not going 2 b pening2 parenting her in d future. about her.. now she'd started 2 get attention. 1 2 b bounce 4 sleeping. my mom get her d baby bouncer, n she likes 2 b bounce by arms now. i was tired coz each time need 2 bounce her in my arms so dat she fell asleep. n she's easily woke up if she felt not being bounce. huhu.. so, i advice other soon-2-b-mum, never get d baby bouncer! juz put ur newborn in her cot. let her sleep juz like dat. n don't start using d pacifier 2. coz it will effect ur kid's front teeth (my mom keep asking me 2 get nadira her pacifier).

dear Allah, pls giv me d strength so dat i can b a good mom 2 my precious alana nadira.. amin..

about breast..

about d tips 2 overcome engorged breast..

from my experience 2 overcome d engorged breast, all tips i did was working successfully.. but need 2-3 days for d breast 2 get back 2 normal la..

now i'm a bit worried about BFd. although i'm starting working only in january, i need 2 train nadira 2 drink her milk from d bottle. yesterday i bought tommee tippee closer to nature 150m (5oz) bottle for her n make her feed from it. but she refused. she only 1 2 b fed from my breasts. huhu.. it'll b hard 2 leave her @ home if i'm going 2 somewhere far or 4 a long period time. my hubby said let her totally hungry so dat she'll drink from d bottle. kesian..

on d 11th, i'm going 2 c dr. felice again 2 check my wound. usually hav 2 wait 4 a long queue 2 meet her, although already made appointment. worried coz nadira will hav 2 wait 4 me 2 get back home from d appointment. i'm thinking 2 go earlier, but guess there'll b other ppl 2 b earlier 2.. aiyak! will ask d nurse if i can get d early morning appointment.

'Bengkak Susu' or engorgement

since yesterday evening, my left breast was engorged (top of it) coz i didn't breastfeed (BFd) more than 3 hrs. d right breast was d latest BFd shift. haha.. it was hard 2 sleep 4 1 nite. n @ nite d engorged area was getting bigger.. huhu.. i check out @ google n did some tips 2 overcome d engorged breast.
1) put hot towel (dat had been soaked in hot water) 2 d breast 2 reduce d pain n let d milk flow; n
2) use hair comb 2 comb @ d whole breast, also 2 make d milk flow; n
3) let nadira BF wit d engorged breast, 2 reduce d swell.

n 2day i brought nadira 2 kkia 4 our appointment after 1 month of her birth. i was healthy wit HB 10.4. thank God.. but i only weight 38kg stil underweight (my previous b4 pregnant was 36-37kg) n nadira was healthy 2.. wit her result:

weight : 3.78 kg
length : 52cm
head circumference : 36cm
chest circumference : 39cm
arm circumference : 11cm

nadira was given Hepatitis B injection n we'll b seeing d nurse again on nex month..

it's 2morow.. ;))

nadira wil b 1 month old 2morow. yeah! ;))

about nadira.. since dis week, she didn;t 2 b feed from d bottle anymore.. huhu.. so only me can feed her wit my breasts ;P. thankfully there's no prob wit my breastfeeding, except when d milk is slow n nadira wil get angry. mula la dia mngamuk..

she also getting chubbier.. wit her double-chin n big belly. haha.. like her abah said 'gendut'. in dis week also, nadira wil 'meragam' during d afternoon n early evening. it's hard 2 make her fell asleep. need 2 'dodoi' her wit standing, 'goyang2 tangan' n not forgetting singing lullaby 4 her.

her face also had changed. few family members said her face similar 2 her abah, or like her atok daddy, or also like my big bro. but now my mom said nadira's face is exactly as zakwan's face (my 12-old-cousin). so funny.. dunno whose face she is similar 2.

Makanan ibu dalam pantang

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Petua orang dulu-dulu
Pemakanan ialah aspek yang amat penting dalam rawatan pantang bersalin. Ini kerana proses kehamilan telah mengganggu keseimbangan hormon ibu. Mereka mengalami pelbagai bentuk tekanan dan gangguan emosi akibat perubahan fizikal. Apalagi semasa melahirkan anak, tenaga dikerah dengan hebat, urat saraf banyak yang cedera dan terjadi luka di bahagian tertentu.

Mengikut sesetengah petua Melayu, ibu-ibu dalam pantang disyorkan makan nasi berlaukkan ikan masin atau ikan panggang berkunyit dan meminum air mengikut sukatan jari (dua ruas jari untuk sekali minum). Akibat diet cara ini (kurang berzat dan kurang air) ibu-ibu terdedah kepada risiko penyakit buah pinggang dan tekanan darah rendah. Oleh sebab itulah makan perubatan moden menentang amalan berpantang cara Melayu. Ingin diingatkan, cara pemakanan tersebut bukanlah cara Melayu tradisional yang sejati tetapi merupakan sebahagian cara hidup mereka yang kurang berkemampuan.

Jenis ikan

Ibu dalam pantang dilarang memakan ikan masin atau ikan kering kerana makanan tersebut hanya akan menyebabkan darah nifas berbau busuk, cepat kering serta melemahkan daya ketahanan fizikal dan mental. Ilmu perbidanan Melayu menggalakkan memakan ikan yang segar, mengelakkan ikan yang berbisa seperti bawal hitam, terubuk, duri, pari, sembilang serta parang kerana takut menyebabkan bisa atau bentan pada pintu rahim.

Selain ikan berbisa, jenis ikan yang dilarang yang menyebabkan kegatalan kulit serta menimbulkan reaksi alahan ialah ikan kembung, tamban, cencaru, atau tongkol dan makanan laut seperti udang, sotong, kerang dan lain-lain.

Mengikut petua Melayu, ikan yang disyorkan dalam pantang bersalin ialah haruan dan yu. Ia dipercayai boleh memulihkan luka-luka dalaman dan luaran. Ikan haruan yang hidup di dalam lumpur mengandungi khasiat mineral yang tinggi bagi menyembuhkan luka. Secara tradisi, ikan yu dipercayai dapat membanyakkan susu ibu dan beberapa kajian saintifik turut mendapati perkara tersebut benar.

Ulam-ulaman

Terdapat pelbagai jenis ulam tempatan yang mudah diperoleh di mana-mana, antaranya serai, lengkuas, daun atau ubi cekur, bunga kantan, kunyit hidup, daun kesum serta halia. Ulam-ulaman ini mengandungi fiber, zat galian (mineral) dan pelbagai vitamin, termasuklah A, C dan E, bersifat anti oksidan.

Selain ulam di atas, terdapat ulam berkhasiat yang sesuai dimakan oleh ibu dalam pantang, antaranya:

Daun pegaga, pucuk mengkudu, ulam raja, daun lemuni hitam, daun kaduk, daun sekentut, daun cemumar, daun pudina, daun kari, daun bebuas dan daun ruku.

Jenis sayuran dan buahan

Ibu bersalin dilarang memakan sayur-sayuran menjalar, sejuk serta berangin. Antaranya ialah kangkung, timun, sayur keladi, pucuk ubi, pucuk paku, bayam, sayur atau daun keti (bunga putih), kacang panjang, petola, labu, rebung, kacang botor, jeruk maman, petai, jering serta terung. Ibu bersalin juga harus mengelakkan minuman bergas, sejuk serta tajam seperti air tebu, cincau, kelapa muda serta buah-buahan seperti nenas, jambu, belimbing, durian belanda, mangga, betik, ciku, langsat, tembikai cina, nangka, cempedak, pisang masak hijau, pisang nangka, pisang embun, pisang udang, ubi kayu, ubi keladi, sengkuang, manggis, macang, kuinin, dan binjai. Makanan tersebut dilarang kerana dapat mengakibatkan sakit tulang dan sejuk otot serta lemah sendi. Penyakit-penyakit tersebut diketahui telah banyak berleluasa di barat dan dikenali sebagai artritis dan rheumatisme.

Jenis ayam dan burung

Ibu bersalin disyorkan memakan ayam hitam, ayam didik atau ayam selasih yang digaul dengan halia tua, garam kasar dan madu lebah. Ayam ini dikukus dan diambil patinya untuk mengembalikan ketahanan tubuh. Burung puyuh dan merpati juga baik untuk melancarkan aliran darah dan mengatasi masalah sukar tidur pada waktu malam.

p/s: i also found dat apple, orange n kiwi gud 4 healing d wound n vitamin c.. but 4 now, juz eat ayam kampung (cooked as soup, wit soy sauce, halia or kurma), meat, sayur kailan, broccoli n cauliflower. 4 fruits wil take red apple after 30 days. 2day was already d 23rd day;)). really miz drinking fruit juice also soy bean drink. hav 2 wait until 40 days b4 can drink d soy bean. huhu..

today is nadira's 3 wks old

it's been 3 wks since nadira's birth n my cesarean operation day. d wound is getting better. but i stil felt a bit pain when trying 2 get up from or lying on d bed.

yesterday d kkia nurses gave me n nadira a visit. nadira was 3.6kg weight they said. 0.3kg in 10 days time. i guess she'll b 3.9kg or most prob 4.0kg during her 1 month old. she really likes 2 breastfeed. n sumtimes she didn't want 2 drink d milk from d bottle. she 1 it from my breast. hehe.. susah la klu mama suda keja ni nadira.. anyway she's getting chubbier n heavier 2..

my mom suggested d cukur jambu knduri on 1st nov 2009 ( nadira's 40th day ), but i'm thinking a bit later since i 1 to make it special. wit door gifts 4 every1, decorations, flowers etc. so need a lot of preparation n money 2.. haha..

my hubby also most prob can't make it on d dat day. it was his birthday 2.. but we kind of short of budget dis month. hubby spent rm300++ 4 his flite back 2 kk ( 1 way only ) lastime. n i juz begun buying diapers 4 nadira. she used almost 2 packs of huggies newborn (52 pieces) in juz 1 week. can u imagine how many wil she need 4 a month? my mom ask me 2 buy d cheapest 1 (giant brand).. no way.. i 1 d best 4 my precious nadira of coz. but i guess during her 2nd or 3rd month, she'll use d diaper less than now.

now i'm surveying stroller 4 nadira. there's a person selling her used-stroller rm 650 4 peg preggo milano xl stoller (dark blue color). but i'm planning in rm800-1200 budget 4 new stroller. i'm interested 4 mac laren: quest sport 2009. but it's color was boring..

can't wait 4 nadira's 1 month.. ;))

2 wks old..

on 7 oct 2009, nadira's 2 wks old since her birth. she getting more chubby n sgt kuat mnum susu ibu. hehe.. her hair also getting longer. her 'majlis cukur jambul' wil b sometime in nov or dec.hav 2 wait when wil my bro n hubby available, then going 2 fix event's d date since they'r both @ labuan.

early days being a mama..

nadira was so cute.. so i'll never able 2 get mad @ her although i was totally tired parenting her as she's not a patient person. my hubby went back 2 labuan on d 1st oct, so now i'm alone wit nadira. my family also kind of helping me esp if i need 2 go 2 d toilet, or having my meal. d laundry.. i did it myself, my mom helps 2 hang them.

everyday wit same chores.. breastfeeding, changing diapers after nadira peeing n pooing.. n d nadira sleeping time. i also made her a song specially 4 her breastfeeding.. hehe..

las thursday also, nurses from kkia came n checked both me nadira. me 4 my operation wound n nadira's weight. she weight 3.3kg now juz after 10 days. so i guess when she's 1 month old, she'll b 3.9 or 4kg. hehe.. really miz'd my hubby, although we'r always vdeo conferencing tru skype ;)).. hopefully i'll successfully get transfer 2 labuan by nex yr.

b4, d day n d nex day..

b4 d day.. soon after admitted into ward..

( final moment wit baby inside my womb )

during d Cesarean section..





( my hubby was inside d operation room 2 n took d pics 4 me )

juz after nadira being cleaned..

( wit her granny - my mom )

( my hubby holding nadira )

( me n nadira )

nadira's pics b4 going home ( juz after given green light from d nurse. i had 2 walk 2 d counter juz 4 going home.. walking about 10m.. huhu.. it was painful but i pretend it didn't hurt;P )







( chubby alana nadira ;)).. i'm so happy 2 hav u dear.. )